Abner Joins David – A 1 Samuel Bible Lesson on Conviction and Courage
Conviction. It’s a word we hear often in sermons and devotionals, but what does it really mean? According to dictionary.com, conviction is defined simply as:
“a fixed or firm belief.”
In today’s 1 Samuel Bible lesson, we take a deeper look at what conviction meant for one man—Abner—and how it led him to take a bold step: joining David to help fulfill God’s promise of a united Israel.
The Kingdom at Stake – Abner’s Turning Point
Abner was a powerful military commander serving under Saul’s family, specifically King Ish-Bosheth. Yet, tensions were high between the house of Saul and the house of David. When Abner was accused of wrongdoing by Ish-Bosheth, it lit a fire that changed the course of Israel’s history.
“Now it happened that while there was war between the house of Saul and the house of David, Abner was strengthening himself in the house of Saul.”
– 2 Samuel 3:6
After being accused of sleeping with Saul’s concubine Rizpah, Abner responded with anger and a decision: he would no longer support Ish-Bosheth and would instead help transfer the kingdom to David.
Was Abner in the Bible a Good Man?
That’s a fair question. Was Abner in the Bible a good man? Like many leaders in Scripture, Abner was complex. He was loyal to Saul’s house for years but ultimately chose to align with God’s plan through David. His story shows us that even deeply flawed people can play a crucial role in God’s bigger picture.
Who Was the Father of Abner in the Bible?
If you’re curious about Abner’s background, here’s a quick fact: Abner was the son of Ner, Saul’s uncle, making him Saul’s cousin. That family connection may explain his long-standing loyalty to Saul’s household.
David Requires Proof of Loyalty
Abner wasn’t about to switch sides quietly. He sent messengers to David offering to bring all of Israel under David’s rule. But David had one condition—he wanted his wife Michal, Saul’s daughter, returned to him first.
“Make your covenant with me, and behold, my hand shall be with you to bring all Israel over to you.”
“Only I require one thing… you shall not see my face unless you first bring Michal, Saul’s daughter, when you come to see me.”
– 2 Samuel 3:12-13
Abner agreed and followed through. After rallying the elders of Israel and the tribe of Benjamin, he personally came to David with 20 men. David hosted them, made peace, and allowed Abner to return—on a mission to unite the kingdom.
Conviction, Fear, and Action
It’s easy to judge biblical characters, but if we’re honest, many of us wrestle with the same emotions. Ish-Bosheth knew something was wrong but was too afraid to act. Sound familiar?
Conviction without courage is powerless.
Fear can hold us back from taking the steps God calls us to take—whether that’s sharing our faith, changing careers, or confronting a wrong. Abner shows us that bold steps often begin with hard decisions. Yes, he had mixed motives, but God still used him.
What Are You Convicted About Today?
Are you feeling called to do something but holding back out of fear or uncertainty? Maybe it’s time to do what Abner did—take that first step.
Even Heroes Feel Fear
As someone who loves history, I’ve listened to countless interviews with people we call heroes. And almost every single one of them admits the same thing:
“I was frightened; but I did it anyhow.”
That’s the kind of courage God can give us when we step forward in faith. And when fear overwhelms us, we can always turn to Scripture for comfort.
If you need encouragement, check out our blog post on Top 10 Psalms for Comfort. These verses offer peace when fear and doubt creep in.
Pray First, Then Go
When we feel God nudging us, our first reaction should always be prayer. Ask for strength, wisdom, and courage—then take the step, just like Abner did.
God doesn’t call perfect people. He calls willing people.
So what’s your next move?
Abner’s journey from loyalty to Saul to support for David was complicated—but necessary. He reminds us that conviction, when guided by faith, can lead us right into God’s will.
If you’re wondering how to begin a relationship with Jesus Christ, please take a moment to read John 3:16 here.
In Christ,
Bob